Get Up to Speed! Learn everything you can – You can be a credible source of information and advice for your child when you know enough to be a credible source. Talk with other parents about their experiences with children and technology use. Explore the web: The California Department of Education provides a list of […]
For many adolescents, the divorce of their parents is a terrifying thought and a vivid reality. Divorce means a loss of their home as they knew it. It may mean changes in financial situation – possibly a stay at home parent goes to work or both parents work more. It may mean having to relocate […]
One of the hardest things for a parent to do is say no to his child. “Well,” parents often rationalize, “it’s only the first time he has stayed out past curfew. He is under a lot of stress and really wants to see his friends, so I suppose I will let him go out tonight.” […]
Persistence is a virtue, I am beginning to realize. That and patience. The two are unusual companions when rearing teens. Let’s start with patience. A wise person once told a story about learning to watercolor. During the first art session, the teacher brushed on the first layer, a wash of cobalt blue, then leaned back […]
Mentors, much like lanterns, can “illuminate dark and uncertain paths, calm and still doubts and fears with encouraging words, wise lessons, gentle touches, firm nudges and faithful actions.” These words of Marian Wright Edelman help us to become aware of our gifts as parents. We are mentors to our children and may be mentors to […]
Build self-esteem in your children… •Kids who feel good about themselves are much less likely than other kids to turn to illegal substances to get high and/or to engage in risky behaviors. •As parents, we can do many things to enhance our children’s self-image. Here are some pointers: –Offer lots of praise for any job […]
Discuss definitions of sexual behaviors, puberty, physical changes, oral sex. •Help your child to be responsible so they can make a decision. •Help them understand what their feelings about sex are. •Are they ready for sex and how do they know what that means or feels like? •Help them make up their own mind about […]
Encourage choice •Allow your child plenty of opportunity to become a confident decision-maker. An 8-year-old is capable of deciding if she wants to invite lots of friends to her birthday party or just a close pal or two. A 12-year-old can choose whether she wants to go out for chorus or join the school band. […]
Tip #10- Take a deep breath. You will get through this tough economic time. It may take dipping into your reserves of energy, inventiveness, and stick-to-it-iveness, but it can be done!
Tip #9- Older children can understand what a downturn in the economy is. They do not need to feel that parents are in a panic, but they can learn that like life itself, there are ups and downs. Commentary by Margaret Murchan, LCSW
